If you’re reading this, this is for someone who is no longer dating their ex, no longer crushing on their crush, or looking for tips to get over a break up. Trust, it is no fun knowing the person you thought you was going to be with longterm is not going to be around anymore. Keep on reading for methods on how to get over your ex.

Grieve.

What you experience was a harsh reality. It’s ok to take a few days, weeks or however long you feel the need to grieve. What you don’t want to do is be stuck grieving for too long. How else are you going to move on if you are not moving on? So take that time to do an ugly cry. Yes, girl. UGLY CRY. Let it all out and don’t hold back! You want to take that time to grieve so that you can start to heal and finally accept the situation.

Time needed: Unknown

  1. First, accept that it happened.

  2. Next, accept that this is only temporary.

  3. Lastly, accept that you are still here and things will get better.

You’ll feel so much better once you start to grieve.

Support

Find your support system. Whether it’s a counselor, your family or friends, find a support system that is going to take care of you. Spend more time with your family or friends too! For instance, going over to their house, shopping together, food dates or even just being on FaceTime talking about nothing. Be around people that’s going to help your situation and not talk negative about what already happen. We know what happened, but what positive things can they do for you as your family or friend?

Peace.

Last but not least is to find peace within yourself. You can’t make someone else happy until you are happy. So take the time to do some self-care! Check out my blog post about skincare products that could help add some love with your self care routine! I also talk about the products in more detail in my Youtube video here.

Start doing your hair or makeup more and also start putting some clothes on. I don’t mean the basic t-shirt and joggers, but actually style some items together! Whether it’s going out for a walk, to the grocery store or even a friend’s house, it feels nice getting dressed up for YOU. Why not finish that activity you’ve been putting off for so long or starting a hobby that you’ve always want to try. Find yourself girl! You have to be happy with yourself first no matter what!

The moral of the post is that I want you to get to the point where you are ok mentally. Mental health is a serious matter and I know seeing a counselor is look down upon, but trust me… IT IS NOT! Do not limit yourself thinking you don’t want to date again. Get yourself together first to the point where you have the mindset to date again. That is to say, date! No commitments. No strings attached. Simply just date. So, if a guy asks you out, don’t turn him down. Go on the date with him and have fun. You don’t have to commit to anything. This is just another way to help you get over an ex.

You’ll find true love.

We as women fail to date multiple people at the same time and as a result, we put all of time and energy into one person. I’m not insinuating to be intimate with this or that person, but truly date. Dating means getting to know people. You’re getting to know what you like and what you do not like in a person. To sum it up, I hope this helps you get over an ex. Thoughts, questions or discussions? Lemme know in the comments below!

XOXO, Official Desarae