There are two things in life that are constant and that’s change and change.

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Who here has watched Insecure: Season 4, Episode 5 Lowkey Movin’ On? This will be a recap of the episode so yes, SPOILER ALERT!!! If you have not seen the episode or do not want to know the events that were taken place, watch the episode then come back to this blog post to read. If you have, then click on this post to read about my take on Molly + Issa’s friendship.

Whewww child… This episode was so good, yet so bad for the main characters. I just could not believe the events that were taken place. I’m in school right now studying counseling for my master’s and I just had to analyze the whole situation. Alright, so let get into it.

Recap:

Issa has been planning a block party specifically for her community in hopes of shedding black culture to all for a while now. After mentioning to her friends, they did not seem as supportive as they should have been for someone that wants to do good in their community. So, Issa starts to get things in order to make this event come true such as finding sponsors, a team, and a headliner to perform.

Molly + Issa Friendship

Tension. So much tension has built up between these two friends. You can see that the two have been distant to each other for a minute. Issa and Molly have not had their weekly hikes and talks lately. They barely have been in communication with each other and now, they’re throwing low jabs at one another about each other’s messiness.

This leads to the conversation that Issa had with her little boo thang Nathan and she mentions she doesn’t even fuck with Molly like that anymore. Molly basically says the same thing to her boyfriend Andrew. She says she shouldn’t even show up to the block party just because.

Molly revealed that Issa did not even come to her dinner party to celebrate her win after inviting her and paying for a huge seafood dinner. I admit, that does hurt one’s feelings when your best friend is unable to celebrate with you, especially when the two of you have not been in communication or on good terms for a while. The two meet up later on to visit their mutual friends Tiffany and Kelly and again, the tension could be cut with a knife.

We then find out that Issa reached out to Molly and asked her for help because her main headliner for the block party fell through. Molly said she will ask her boyfriend because he has connections in the music industry. It turns out Molly decided not to ask him because she doesn’t want to and also thinks it’ll mess up her relationship with Andrew.

Block Party

Fast forwarding to the block party, we see Molly has shown up and Issa was surprised because she hasn’t heard from her. Molly says, “of course I came, I’m your best friend.” The two connected a little more by dancing with each other and laughing like old times. Issa event turns out to be very successful at the end of the night, until Molly learns from her boyfriend that he helped Issa through Nathan to find a performer for the block party.

Furious and upset, for I don’t know what reason, Molly questioned Issa about going behind her back and getting Andrew to do her the favor. The two start to argue and it gets ugly and almost to the point they were going to fight. Their friends tried to calm each other down until their argument is interrupted by a bystander thinking someone has a gun. Everyone disperses quickly and the scene is ended by a hard rainfall.

Imposter Syndrome

See, I knew from the moment Molly was not being a good friend to Issa every time Issa brought up wanting to do the block party for their community. I think deep down, Molly did not want to ask her boyfriend because she didn’t necessarily believe in Issa’s project. She didn’t want her boyfriend’s name to be attached to the event just in case it fails.

I believe Molly has imposter syndrome, meaning she thinks of herself as a perfectionist. We’ve seen Molly set excessively high goals for her relationships and her job. Whenever her relationship fails or when she doesn’t play fair at work, she experiences major self-doubt about herself. She worries about measuring up to people and feeling inadequate and incompetent, despite that she is skilled and quite successful. I feel as though she is putting all her issues on Issa and not taking responsibility for them.

I hope these two can resolve their issues with one another, but it seems like this is the friend you have to let go. Most things in life aren’t even worth stressing about so just be happy. These two friends have to have an honest conversation with themselves if they ever see a true friendship. Let me know in the comments about what did you think of the episode? And who do you think was right in Issa and Molly’s big fight? Thanks for reading!

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