February is the month of love and love and oh, did I forget to mention… love. Society gets so caught up in the infatuation of being in a relationship. or in other words, an entanglement just for clout. Do you struggle with self worth? Do you think you aren’t good enough? Are you settling in order to find love? Nah friend, let me help you learn how to fall in love with yourself before you start to doubt your own capabilities.

Some background information about me:

First, I am the only child on my mother’s side, so it was only my mom and I. I was always viewed as the good girl and it got to the point where I felt overwhelmed and suffocated by everyone surrounding me. My confidence was low, my mental health was on the verge breaking and on most days, I felt like a failure. It’s great to know people think you will succeed in life, but it takes away the humane feeling that it is actually ok to not be ok.

I’ve felt like that for years without acknowledging how it can impact my life in the future. As a result, I decided to change my mindset to be healthier mentally and I’ve never felt happier. I fell in love with myself and pursued my passions. Check out my post about how to manifest a better year. With that in mind, I want to share the best ways to fall in love with yourself so you too can experience loving yourself.

4 Best Ways to Fall in Love With Yourself

  1. Stop Comparing

    How can you fall in love with yourself if you compare yourself to others? I know it can intimidating, because social media shows us the insta baddies with enhance bodies and long hair and perfect skin that we start to compare our own image. I use to be at fault of this and I realize I can’t compare myself to anyone, because I am me. I am my own creation. I am the original. I am ME.

    To sum up, it can create self doubt. We don’t ever want that for ourselves. Never view someone as competition, because you compete with yourself!

  2. Positive Affirmations

    Positive affirmations is a huge favorite thing of mine and I believe they lead to positive thinking. It’s like a sense of self empowerment that no one can take away from you. Make a list of positive affirmations so you can get rid of the old habits to form new ones. Some of my favorites are:
    – I am beautiful.
    – I am good enough.
    – I matter.
    – You got this! Do it for the 99’s and 2000’s *insert twerk 😂
    Finally, make sure you continue to say your positive affirmations every day or whenever you feel you will need that boost in your life.

  3. Self Care

    Since positive sayings in your life can be greatly effective, it is also important to take care of yourself. Do the things that makes you happy. Like Big Sean said, lose yourself and find something you won’t let escape the moment. For instance, one of my favorite things to do is self care dates. Which means I take myself out on dates. Examples are getting my hair and nails done, spa day, grab some dinner and wine and relax back at the house. I love doing this as I love the woman I am becoming. Doing things by yourself can help build that self confidence. You begin to learn more about yourself and that’s what it is all about; improving your self.

  4. Personal Growth

    In the end, we have to recognize ourselves and understand we are human. We make mistakes, but do you learn from them to stop making the same mistakes? The possibilities are endless with personal growth, because we are growing until our last days.
    It’s up to you if you want to live a positive and happy life. Yes, we all have our bad days, but it’s up to you to decide what path you want to take.

Personal growth, self-care and self development is what Official Desarae Blog is all about. More importantly, I want you to remember that you are beautiful, you are good enough, and that you matter. One of my friends from back home has a clothing brand called, QPID Apparel, that focuses on self love. Go on ahead and check them out, because as their mission states, you can’t love without loving yourself!

XOXO, Official Desarae