Sometimes we say things that we really don’t mean…

Gonna Love Me | Teyana Taylor

Being a young adult, you kind of start realizing and understanding more and more as you get older about relationships. Not only just dating, but friends and family type relationships as well. Personally, I like to ask questions and advice from people who have experience situations than those who have not. I feel like they are the best people to get advice from and to learn from their own mistakes. Nobody’s perfect, but you can work on yourself to better your actions. Keep reading if you are interested on ways to improve your relationships with others.

Stop The Blame.

Stop blaming others for what they did to you and your feelings. Yes, the situation happened and it made you feel this way, but what are you going to do about it to move forward?

Sometimes, I would have to catch myself when someone had hurt me in the past and I would say things like, “You don’t know what they did to me”. But why does that matter? It happened. Simple as that. The blame gets pushed on not only the person that has hurt you, but to others like your partner, your family or your friends. Being aware of your feelings and how they are reflected on a person can help you realize that you need to take a step a back and analyze the situation. Take responsibility for your actions and do better than what the person did to you.

Communicate.

Communication is something that society is lacking from a personal point of view. When I talk to people or hang out with friends or even at a social event, I observe people’s actions. I notice people like to talk over people, stating opinions and not the facts and pointing the blame at others and not themselves. Miscommunication is a key factor in relationships. We are so caught up in our feelings that we do not even realize the tone we set for the topic. Examples are arguing over text and not talking in person or shutting yourself down and distancing yourself from the person.

Misunderstanding is a common thing we tend to do. We try to read minds when we are not mind readers. Making assumptions will only lead downward, because we don’t know how someone feels if they don’t tell us. Express how you feel and express your thoughts.

Love.

That four letter word that we do not say enough. Tell your partner, your family, and your friends that you love them. Showing a lack of affection can lead people to be less happy, lonelier and more likely to experience depression and stress. By having an inadequate support system, we tend to have a lower relationship satisfaction.

A hug, a phone call, or saying that four letter word and so many other affectionate ways that are meaningful, can help improve relationships.

I was once told that you have to let things go in order to be happy. To not reflect on the past, but to be present right now. The older I get, I realize we have to do better. That does not mean you have to put up with toxic family and friends. You have the right to set boundaries with anyone. Remember, do not apologize for what you said, only how you may have said it. Thanks for reading! Don’t forget to like, follow, share and comment!